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Raising self esteem is not that difficult, however you can do some things, which you can't develop overnight. Listed are 12 steps to enlarge self esteem.

1st:

Don't compare yourself with others. There very well might be people who have a higher self esteem than you and many who have less than you. If you start looking at other people, you will very likely start to see yourself as a failure.

2nd:

It is quite important that you don't put down yourself. It is not possible to enlarge self esteem if you constantly repeat use self deprecating words about yourself and your abilities. You need to avoid self depreciating comments whenever you talk about your relationships, financial condition, any aspect of life, and speaking about your appearances.

3rd:

Try to always be polite and accept any compliments with "thank you". Whenever you reject a compliment the message you give yourself is that you are not worthy of the compliment, which shows low self esteem.

4th:

Always use positive words to increaseyour self esteem. Create a sentence that reflects well on you and place it where you will read it and reinforce positive comments or compliments said to you.

5th:

If possible take advantage of workshops, books and various cassette programs on self esteem. By viewing negative things, they will have an affect on your self esteem, shows like news about murders or bad television programs are to be avoided. They will make you become more negative and cynical. Similarly, if you watch uplifting programs or read good books you will take on these characteristics.

6th:

Try to always avoid less than positive people, try to associate with with positive people because negative thinking people find fault with your ideas or views, simultaneously your self esteem gets lowered. It is a fact that if you are approved and encouraged you will feel encouraged about your self and your self esteem will enlarge.

7th:

Make out list of your past success, consisting of any achievement, small or significant, like learning to drive, graduation, receiving an award, reaching a business goal, etc. Place the list where your read it often, and after reading attempt to go over these accomplishments while closing your eyes tosense the satisfaction they bring to mind.

8th:

Make out the list of your positive personality traits. Be honest with yourself and make out at least 20 positive qualities. It is also important to review all these qualities often. At all times focusing on your positive traits.

9th:

Give time to other people. Start doing things for others, and by making a positive contribution, you will feel a more valuable person, which will enlarge your spirit and enlarge your own self esteem.

10th:

Get involved in things which you love to do. Self esteem expands, when you are engaged yourselfin work which you have a passion for. This passion doesn't have to be work, it might be a task or hobby.

11th:

It is essential important that you be honest to yourself. You will not feel good about yourself if you are not being honest and truthful with yourself.

12th:

Do not be afraid of challenges, try to accept challenges. You can not enlarge high self esteem without facing challenges. Facing and meeting challenges increases your self esteem when you take an action without worrying about the end result